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 - I wouldn't waste my money on thisI read a lot and i put this book down pretty quickly. Not because it read fast but because it seemed a waste of my time. This book didn't engage me some of the scenarios seem out of touch and conclude with overly simplistic resolutions. Rating:  - If you have decided to stay..."If you are looking for an argument you better pick another subject." ~Ingrid Bergman I think there comes a time in a relationship when the insurmountable problems of daily life compels us forward into a stale mate of souls. Two people living together moving in different directions emotionally, spiritually or even philosophically can confront the unavoidable day of "I'm Right. You're Wrong. Now What?" If you are at the point where you have started to fight for what you truly feel is your right, your destiny, your sanity - then this book might shed some light on the solutions to this overwhelming problem. JackLynn Morris asks six questions to assist the reader in selecting their particular conflict. Are you upset about finances, not getting enough sex, having trouble even discussing problems, dealing with difficult in-laws or thinking about a divorce? She also deals with religious differences, serious health problems and interactions with an ex-spouse. During each discussion, six questions guide you to the answers you need to solve the problems. Case studies and solutions are very helpful and give ideas for your own situation. In this way, you can quickly access the information you need right now. You may only need one or two chapters, or you might want to read the entire book. I think there are few problems as terrible as feeling that your partner doesn't want to stay in the relationship, or at least acts that way to gain control. If you can't trust your partner or even talk to them, then I think in that case a separation may be in order, but for problems that are more of an annoyance or eternally cause conflict, this book has many solutions. There is a section on infidelity and that takes staying to a whole new level. If you still love your partner, I believe anything is possible. If you read this book soon enough, it could prevent the destruction of your relationship and prevent a divorce or dissolution of a relationship that you value highly. Quite a few of the solutions are very effective, I've tried them. I know that to stay married over 10 years is to fight against statistics and I think staying married and being happily married are two different worlds. This book might help you escape from the dark side. ~The Rebecca Review Trying to stay sane AND married :) Rating:  - Use six questions to improve relationship communicationThis book is about how to ask six questions, and use the answers to better communicate with our partner and improve a variety of relationship issues. The six questions are: 1. What are my negative feelings? 2. What's the fairest way to describe the problem? 3. Why do I want to work things out? 4. How would I like things between us to be? 5. How can I actually get that? 6. And if that doesn't work, what else can I do? The authors use this approach with dozens of individuals who are in relationships and are having issues with each other related to everything from raising the kids, to ex-spouses, to sex, to money. In fact there are 16 chapters essentially showing how this approach works in a variety of situations. I have no doubt that this does work. Rather than solving the issue however, these questions and this approach are really about how to compromise with the other person in the relationship, take ownership for "my" side of the problem, and improve communication clarity and understanding. My only concern with this book is that it is like reading a screenplay versus watching the film, or reading the sheet music versus hearing the symphony. Both are accurate depictions of the same reality, yet one fails to really capture the deeper passion and emotions as clearly as the other. The authors work hard at never making any moral decisions, and assume all situations can be simply resolved through this approach. The book is a logic first, logic last and only logic approach. Life is much richer than that though, and improved communication and compromise gets one only so far when there are deeper issues. If this book is viewed as simply a useful tool for helping open doors to those tough issues we often procrastinate on or are reluctant to address for fear of conflict, then I highly recommend it. The process of getting our thoughts out in a rational way is always helpful in better understanding what lies at the heart of these issues. Rating: - One step closer to inner peace and happiness in my marriageI was having a world of problems in my marriage and I did not know where to look. After being inspired by some of the things these authors said on a radio show, I decided to read this book. Boy am I glad I did! I'M RIGHT. YOU'RE WRONG. NOW WHAT? punched right through my walls of denial and forced me to make a real objective re-evaluation of myself and my relationship. It did wonders for me. After that it was easy to see that I did not have to stay hung up on trying to prove that I was right every time my husband and I disagreed. The touching personal stories in this book showed me how I could get past the stuck point in an argument even if my husband refused to see things from my perspective. This is a really fine book that has taken me one step closer to inner peace and happiness in my marriage. Rating: - Be Part of the Solution, End the Problem!If you need to solve a problem with someone, you need to become the first step towards a solution -- afterall, you have to want to solve it for yourself to be happy. "I'm Right. You're Wrong. Now What?" enables you to create that very catalyst for change in your life. This book provides a personal safety zone from which to address what's keeping you up nights, focus on the next steps to bring about change, and most importantly come to a personal decision about what you are going to do about it! The best part is that the authors, two professionals in the world of relationships and counseling have translated years of experience into a 6 question strategy for the rest of us. Everyone from kids who need to "handle it myself" to adults who "don't need any help" should start with I'm Right. You're Wrong. Put it under someone's pillow! They'll thank you. page 1 of 2
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