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 - unhappy in a relationship? letting a man in your life treat you like crap and bending over backwards to make him happy? oh boy, do you need this book.. helped me understand why i seek emotionally unavailable men and then suffer for it.. taught me a few lessons on what NOT to do, raising my son.. it was also an important step in the process of selfrealization that helped me get over my ex husband cheating on me. i recommend to every woman. Rating: - Life ChangingI read and re-read this book. It gave me hope and made sense out of my mixed up life. The recommendation to go to a 12 Step Program included in the book is the best advice I ever followed. Rating: - so whatI've read this book several times over the years and I think it is a great book to help the women it is intended for get through tough spots. A lie? So what the scenarios are fictional. Did she mention anywhere that the scenarios in her book are real. It never even cross my mind to beleive that the scenarios in the book was real. How many books (self help or not) is based on real life? The fact that she was able to create those scenarios that so closely chronicled what most women go through is outstanding in itself. She did what she did to get through to us and it worked for many women. Rating:  - This book saved my life onceIt was the most horrible summer in my life. I was 23 and I wanted to die. I couldn't understand and accept what was happening to me, that I was addicted to a man who clearly despised me and cheated on me. I had been obsessed with a few men that I couldn't get before, but this was much worse because I thought I had lost my current boyfriend's love because I didn't deserve it. I was a bad person, an ugly and stupid woman, and on the verge of going insane. I had lost weight, my skin was yellow and my intelligence was paralyzed while my soul was in so much pain... At the worst times, I would tear my hair out or pinch myself to distract myself from the psychological anguish. I would often think: "This can't be love! It's surely a kind of mental illness... How could I love someone who mistreats me, lies to me, cheats on me, laughs at me in my face?" I thought I was crazy. When I first spotted WHLTM at the drugstore, I thought it was just another stupid self-help book with a ridiculous title. How can anyone ever love too much? But my despair was such that I was ready to try anything... The book confirmed what I was already suspecting: that what I was going through was a kind of mental disorder rather than actual love. Because I had been rejected by my father (he disappeared from my life when I was 4 after sexually abusing me), I was always attracted to men who didn't love me, who often even barely knew that I was alive. I thought I was a romantic, but I wasn't attracted to Prince Charming. A couple of very nice guys suffered because of me because I couldn't love them back. One of the real-case stories in WHLTM was like a mirror to me (I was very disappointed when I learned that these stories were mostly fiction). It helped me to face the truth about myself, my life, my boyfriend. I still think the title is misleading. You can never love too much. But you should always be wary of feelings and mental disorders that often pass for love: obsession, addiction, infatuation, mere sexual desire, etc. WHLTM made me understand what was wrong with me. Sadly, it didn't cure me. I don't think I will ever be able to love a man who loves me me back, so I stay alone. I love men, I have a lot of male friends... But I could never have a healthy romance with a man. Therapy didn't help. I still recommend this book. To both men and women who think that they love too much and are often in great anguish. It will help you understand what exactly is making you miserable. Then there's a lot of work to do: soul searching, therapy, spirituality. If "loving too much" is the only thing that currently gives your life any meaning, I recommend as a companion book to WHLTM "Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor Frankl. Good luck. If you're not as "damaged" as I am, there is hope for you and you can learn to love truly and in a healthy way... and to accept that someone can actually love you back. P.S.: I suffered a lot because of an unrequited "love" last year. It was the first time in ten years. Despite my passion, I was able to stay away from the man... because of what Robin Norwood had taught me about myself 14 years before. Rating: - WonderfulOf all the books I've ever read, this is the most useful. The title describes exactly what the book is about. The book itself is a page turner. When I first picked it up, I related to it immediately and couldn't put it down. It is written in a professional yet personal tone and is very down to earth. As is stated in the title, this book is about women that care so much for a man that she drives him away or hurts herself and thinks it's right. Many women think they deserve to suffer and this book explains why that's not true. It's very personal and if you're anything like the title, I would definitely recommend reading it. This will change your life. In association with Amazon.com | |