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 - Life changingThis book was life changing for me. My stepmom recommended I read it after my divorce, as it had helped her tremendously when she went through hers. My counselor also recommended it. This book does have a lot of references to addiction/alcoholism, which doesn't always apply to everyone, but the information is valuable nonetheless and you can apply it all to your own situation. I saw myself in this book so much. This book gave me strategies for creating healthier relationships and for changing behaviors that I want/need to change in order to do this and be a happy, whole person. Her big theme is "take care of yourself" rather than focusing so much on other people. It offers a very nice balance between how to still be a giving, caring person but not get hurt or lose yourself in the process. I took my pen and underlined throughout the book as I went. I still go back and re-read sections and I find that it is extremely empowering. HIGHLY RECOMMENDED. Especially for people who continue to find themselves in relationships where they give more than the other person does, want their partner to change, feel unhappy and used and are not sure why, or just find that they have codependent tendencies. Rating: - I learned to be nice to myself...These two books have helped me learn how to take care of myself and how to love myself. These books spoke directly to me as if Melody knew me all my life. I read these after entering recovery from addiction only to find I had been codependent since childhood. These books have helped me learn how to be. They are like Life Handbooks that I never got. I am deeply grateful to Melody for these treasures. These books have done as much for me as biweekly visits to a therapist. First, Codependent No More helped me see the extent of my codependence, which was like a cancer that affected every part of my life. It taught me how to detach with love, how to feel my own feelings, how to own my power, how to accept myself and others. Beyond Codependency really put my recovery into action. It covers in simple concrete unambiguous terms how to deal with family of origin issues, how to set a boundary, how to deal with shame, and how to affirm myself. The chapter titled "Breaking Free" is a personal favorite. How appropriate that these are combined into one. I personally prefer Beyond Codependency, but it is more the nuts and bolts, Codependent No More sets the stage and gives you the big picture. I highly recommend these for anyone who struggles with having healthy relationships. Rating: - Excellent pairing up of two winning volume from BeattieMelody Beattie, a former addict, used to hate codependents (which she defines as "people who have let another person's behavior afect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person's behavior"). Codepdendents are most frequently the family members of alcoholics or drug users, but the definition is broad. Beattie thought codependents were hostile and detrimental to the recovery process. When she went through codependency herself, her eyes were opened to the world that these people live in, and to the potential for recovery if one can identify the problem and take positive steps to improve their life. Codependent No More is a quick and easy read, and it will hit home if you have an alcoholic or a codependent (or both) in your life. Beattie provides example scenarios of codependecy, expounds upon the traits and self-defeating behaviors of codepdency, and provides self-help steps to move beyond codepdency. Although this isn't marketed as a workbook, Beattie provides checklists and open-ended questions at the end of each chapter, and a blank journal to record your reponses would be an excellent companion to the book. Once you've finished Codependent No More, Beattie's next book (included in this two-for-one) Beyond Codepdency is a guide to the on-going recovery process. It also includes activities/questions to probe the reader's own experience and help him or her get a handle on their situation. These two books are highly recommended and it is terrific that they are available in one volume. Rating: - If you're looking for help, this book is itAfter years of living with an alcoholic man, I found this book through a wonderful counselor. It literally saved my life. I started reading and found myself within the pages. This book opened my heart and my mind to the good things life had for me. Melody's book, Beyond Codependency, is also life-changing. Rating: - Let Go and Find Self-Love and HappinessWhat an important book. Recommended to me by a therapist. It has changed my life. Now I recommend it to others who want to start living theirs. It's excellent, buy it. page 1 of 2
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